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透過 Genogram 覺察家族歷代模式 <a href="https://www.gloryw.org/Special-topics/genogram">https://www.gloryw.org/Special-topics/genogram</a>

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基督家庭成長圖的反思:Genogram

如何透過家系圖覺察家族歷代模式,學習在基督裡實現個人和靈性成長

☘️主講者 David Chen 傳道








What is genogram ?

    A genogram 家系圖 is a diagram outlining the history of the behavior patterns (as of divorce, abortion, or suicide) of a family's members over several generations in order to recognize and understand past influences on current behavior patterns. ( definition of Genogram)
    It is an important tool for self-awareness, personal development, and relationship development. It can reveal how a person’s experiences today make sense in the larger context of their family-of-origin and past experiences.
    A genogram uses symbols to represent all of this information.



A genogram is the Family Tree 3.0: not only does it reveal who's who(family composition and structure ) in the family, but it also is rich in information about:

  1. major events
    (e.g., war, immigration, 9/11) that may have left a deep impact on the individuals and/or the family,
  2. cultural factors
    race experiences, immigration, religion, sexism, homophobia
  3. mental health issues
    (e.g., anxiety, bipolar disorder)
  4. medical conditions
    (e.g., diabetes, cancer)
  5. traumas
    (e.g., sexual abuse, sudden deaths, miscarriage)
  6. addictions
    (e.g., alcohol, work, pornography, substance, sex, ministry, shopping)
  7. relationship dynamics:
    closeness, distance, conflict, enmeshment, cut-off,
  8. the role played in the family
    (e.g., the Hero, the Victim, the Clown, the Lost Child)
  9. demographic information such as:
    1. marriages 
    2. births 
    3. divorces 
    4. deaths 

One purpose of using genograms is to help people see family patterns that repeat over generations.

Genograms can also be used to help reduce emotional reactivity during counseling sessions.



Specialized Genograms 

    Genograms are a versatile tool, and there are many different types. Special types of genograms can highlight information that is relevant to specific needs.
    For example:

  1. Spiritual Genograms
  2. Cultural genograms
  3. Color-coded genograms
  4. Sexual genograms
  5. Solution-oriented genograms
  6. Socially constructed genograms
  7. Time-line genograms
  8. Career genograms


Spiritual Genograms

    The spiritual genogram is a type of genogram designed to help understand religious and spiritual issues within a family. It can show information such as:

  1. family members' religious and spiritual affiliations
  2. conflicts related to religion or spirituality
  3. bonds created by religion or spirituality
  4. events in the family's religious life

Benefits of Spiritual Genograms

    The spiritual genogram can help people to:

  1. Understand how spirituality is intertwined with their own life and the lives of their family
  2. Identify patterns of sin and negative consequences that have been passed down through generations.
  3. Learn to notice spiritual and religious development in themselves and others
  4. Realize how important spirituality is to their relationships

Spiritual genograms are often used in couple and family counseling

    They can help people see how their family history of religion and spirituality affects them in the present.
    Spiritual genograms can also be used to:

  1. Help people understand the meaning of life
  2. Help people cope with spiritual issues
  3. Help people uncover the spiritual and religious aspects of problems in family dynamics or personal development
  4. The spiritual genogram can help couples see the influence of religion and spirituality on their intimacy, whether they have similar or different religious backgrounds.


Notes on Using Spiritual Genograms in Counseling

  • It is important for counselors to be respectful of their counselee spiritual perspectives when using spiritual genograms in counseling.
  • They should not assess counselee from their own point of view, but rather understand that the counselee's spirituality is part of their worldview.
  • A counseling can use probing questions to gather information about the role of religion and spirituality in the family, and how those issues might affect the problems the counselee is facing.
  • Counselors who are not trained in working with spiritual issues may need to consult with colleagues or clergy before using spiritual genograms.
  • Counselor can encourage counselee to connect with family members to gather more information about their family's history. This can help the client to better understand their family and renegotiate relationships in the present.

  • Sins Leading to Curses


    There are multitude of sins that can lead to curses. These sins often act as open doors in a person's spiritual life, allowing darkness and negative spiritual influences to enter.

    Curses are empowered by Satan and often enforced by demonic entities, principalities, and powers. The sources explain that Satan exploits "open doors" in a person's spiritual hedge, which can be caused by sin, to inflict harm and establish a foothold in their life.

    The concept of sin leading to curses is rooted in the biblical idea of disobedience to God and His laws. Here is a categorized breakdown :

    1. Sins Related to Disobedience to God's Laws: (ref. Deut. 27:15-26 and 28:15-68.)

    1. Idolatry and Worship of False Gods: (Ex. 20:3-5 十誡)
      Placing anything above God in one's life, including material possessions, personal desires, or other deities, violates the first commandment and opens the door to curses.
    2. Disrespect for Parents and Authority Figures:
      Dishonoring parents, elders, or those in positions of authority is explicitly mentioned as a sin leading to curses . This can include acts of rebellion, disobedience, and speaking negatively about them.
    3. Treachery, Deceit, and Betrayal:
      Acting in a dishonest or untrustworthy manner towards others, particularly those close to you, can result in curses.
    4. Oppression of the Weak and Helpless:
      Taking advantage of or mistreating those who are vulnerable, such as the poor, widows, orphans, or the marginalized, can lead to curses.
    5. Illicit and Unnatural Sexual Sins:
      Engaging in sexual activities outside of God's design for marriage, including adultery, fornication, homosexuality, and other forms of sexual immorality, is a major cause of curses.
    6. Antisemitism:
      Hatred or prejudice against the Jewish people is specifically mentioned as a sin that can lead to curses.
    7. Financial Disobedience and Stinginess:
      Withholding tithes and offerings, being greedy with money, and not using resources responsibly are forms of disobedience that can bring curses.
    8. Religious Hypocrisy and Dead Works:
      Outwardly practicing religion without genuine faith and inward transformation is condemned as a sin that can lead to curses.
    9. Breaking Oaths and Covenants:
      Failing to keep promises made to God or to others, particularly vows made in marriage, can result in curses.
    10. Participation in Witchcraft and Sorcery:
      Engaging in occult practices, seeking guidance from mediums or psychics, and using divination tools are acts of rebellion against God that invariably lead to curses.

    2. Sins Related to the Misuse of Words and Self-Imposed Curses:

    1. Speaking Negative Words Against Oneself:
      Note the power of words can create reality. Declaring sickness, failure, or hopelessness over oneself can manifest as a self-imposed curse. Examples include:
      1. “It's driving me crazy”
      2. “Whenever there's a bug, I catch it”
      3. “I don't think I'll ever get pregnant”
      4. “I never can make ends meet”
    2. Cursing Others:
      Speaking ill of others, wishing harm upon them, or using words to inflict pain can also invite curses.

    3. Sins Related to Generational Curses (Unrepentant Ancestral Sins):

    1. That sins committed by ancestors that are not repented of can be passed down as curses to future generations. These curses often manifest as patterns of addiction, illness, poverty, broken relationships, and other destructive behaviors.
    2. Specific sins mentioned as contributing to generational curses include:

    Children are not held responsible for their parents' sins, but the consequences of those sins can create spiritual vulnerabilities and open doors for curses. Breaking generational curses requires identifying the ancestral sins involved, repenting of them, and renouncing the curses in the name of Jesus.
    It's important to reiterate that this list is not exhaustive, as the sources provide many examples of sins and their potential consequences. It's crucial to seek guidance from the Holy Spirit to identify specific sins that might be contributing to a curse in your life or family history.


    The Nature and Cause of Generational Sin


    Adam and Eve committed what is generally called original sin . Therefore, all the children born to them (and their descendants) inherited sin as a spiritual gene , thereby turning original sin into hereditary sin (罪性).

    Subsequently, the whole human race has had the same sinful nature; also, the curse of rejection and the penalty of spiritual death has been passed down through the process of conception and birth Rom. 5:12 Therefore, just as through one man sin entered into the world, and death through sin, and so death spread to all mankind, because all sinned. 這就如罪是從一人入了世界,死又是從罪來的,於是死就臨到眾人,因為眾人都犯了罪。

    Cain, as the first naturally-born child, was the first recipient of the "hereditary sin" curse. He was rebellious, argumentative, and disobedient, and did not offer an appropriate sacrifice, as God required. He rejected God and God rejected Cain. Be-cause Cain "belonged to the evil one" 1 John 3:12 not as Cain, who was of the evil one and murdered his brother. And for what reason did he murder him? Because his own deeds were evil, but his brother's were righteous. , any consideration of how Satan is able to manipulate humanity into feeling rejected must begin with Cain. 不可像該隱,他是屬那惡者,殺了他的兄弟。為什麼殺了他呢?因自己的行為是惡的,兄弟的行為是善的。

    One of the ways Satan harasses us is by sending evil influences through “doors” that are open in our spiritual hedge (refer to Job 1:10 "a fence around 圈上籬笆,圍護") due to sins committed by our ancestors. God tells us this is so in several scriptural passages (Ex. 20:5 and 34:7, Num. 14:18, Deut. 5:9, Jer. 32:18).

    Few would argue with the existence of physical heredity —with the natural process of passing on genes and DNA to our sons and daughters, which results in the tendency of our offspring to possess some of the physical characteristics and nature of their parents and ancestors ( “body” reference ).

    Few, also, would argue with the existence of hereditary pre-disposition of offspring for the mental problems of their parents (for example, depression, worry, anxiety, mental illness “soul” reference ).
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    Likewise, there is a spiritual inheritance passed on when we are conceived. How do we know this? Let's look at a couple of examples from the Bible.

    1. David took (raped) Bathsheba 拔示巴 , (2 Sam 11:4), and later Amnon暗嫩, David’s son rapes his sister Tamar她瑪. (2 Sam 13:14) David’s son Solomon had 1000 wives and concubines (1 Kings 11:3).
    2. Abraham was a liar. Twice he lied about Sarah being his sister. (Gen 12:13 & Gen 20:2). Isaac lies to Abimelech,亞比米勒 king of the Philistines, saying Rebekah 利百加 was his sister. (Gen 26:7). Jacob and his mother Rebekah lied to Issac in order for Jacob to obtain the blessing. (Gen 27:19). Jacob's ten sons lie to Jacob about Joseph's death. (Gen 37:33)
    3. Within the middle of verse five of Exodus 20 (the Ten Commandments), we find these words from God: “for I the LORD thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me; And shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments” (Ex. 20:5-6).
    4. Jesus' statement in Luke 11:50: This verse indicates that the consequences of sins committed in the past can be carried by future generations. 使創世以來所流眾先知血的罪,都要問在這世代的人身上,

    The root of original sin began in the Garden of Eden with Adam and Eve. Notwithstanding the sin of Adam and Eve, they later walked with God and were obedient to Him. Adam and Eve passed on to their sons—through spiritual heritage —both the sins of rebellion and idolatry and the blessing of mercy (vs. 6). (Source: Dr. Arlin Epperson Healing of the Spirit.pdf)


    Modern-Day Research:

    1. Studies that show a higher likelihood of addiction, alcoholism, and criminal behavior among descendants of individuals who engaged in such activities.

    2. Research is also presented indicating that children of alcoholics have different physiological responses to alcohol compared to children of non-alcoholics.

    3. Studies are mentioned showing that a mother's emotional state during pregnancy can significantly impact the child's physical and emotional well-being.


    Using Genograms to Identify Possible Generational Sins/Curses

    A curse is a supernatural edict enforced by a spirit being. Every curse has a cause (or source); “so the curse causeless shall not come”
    Prov. 26:2 Like a sparrow in its flitting, like a swallow in its flying, So a curse without cause does not come to rest. 麻雀往來,燕子翻飛,這樣,無故的咒詛也必不臨到。
    As we minister for the purpose of inner healing conselling and come to believe there is a curse involved, there are three questions we need to ask: (1) Is there a curse? (2) What is the cause? (3) What is the cure?


    The Power of Genograms

    One of the most powerful tools in the fight against generational curses is the genogram. By meticulously mapping out our family histories, we can gain invaluable insights into the patterns and behaviors that have been passed down through the generations. This exercise not only helps us to identify the specific curses we may be grappling with, but it also provides a roadmap for the work that lies ahead.

    How Spiritual Genograms can be used to identify possible generational curses.

    1. Spiritual Genograms can help to identify patterns of sin and negative consequences that have been passed down through generations.
      • They do so by mapping out family relationships over at least three generations and recording information on significant life cycle events, such as births, deaths, marriages, and divorces.
      • Additionally, you can record details like occupations, education, religious affiliations, spiritual beliefs, extended family networks, and medical and emotional history.
    2. That the unrepentant sin on the part of our forefathers becomes a generational curse, particularly the sin of idolatry. 出埃及記 Ex. 20:5
      不可跪拜那些像,也不可侍奉它,因為我耶和華你的神是忌邪的神。恨我的,我必追討他的罪,自父及子,直到三四代;愛我守我誡命的,我必向他們發慈愛,直到千代。
    3. Note: To use a genogram for this purpose, you would first create a genogram that includes as much information as possible about your family history.
    4. The next step is to look for patterns of sin and their associated consequences that emerge through the generational lines.
      • For example, you might notice that there is a history of addiction, mental illness, or poverty in your family.
      • You might also notice that certain problems seem to "skip" generations.
    5. There are several checklists to help identify these patterns:
      • Checklist #1 helps identify spiritual problems such as occult involvement, addictions, and abuse.
      • Checklist #2 focuses on patterns of sin, such as anger, jealousy, unforgiveness, and vengeance.
      • Checklist #3 is about health problems that are prominent in your family.
    6. A few cautions about using genograms to identify generational curses:

      • It is important to remember that not all negative patterns are caused by generational curses . Some may be the result of environmental factors, such as poverty or trauma.
      • It is also important to avoid blaming your ancestors for your problems. Instead, you should use the genogram as a tool to understand how your family history has shaped you, both positively and negatively.
      • We know that Jesus died for our sins and the curses heaped upon our children , and through faith in him, we can break free from generational curses. [19-21, 25] The sources do recommend that you seek the assistance of an intercessor experienced in prayer for generational influences for help in breaking curses and healing. [14, 26, 27]

    Overall, genograms can be a helpful tool to gain insights into your family's past and to identify possible areas for healing and growth. By understanding the patterns and influences that have shaped your family, you can begin to break free from negative patterns and live a healthier, more fulfilling life.




    A Sample Prayer to Break and Reverse the Curses


    The below "Prayer for Breaking Curses" that encompasses key elements for renouncing curses and reclaiming spiritual ground.

    It is important to note that to emphasize the importance of sincerity, repentance, and a genuine desire to break free from any spiritual bondage. Here's a sample prayer:

    Lord Jesus Christ,

    Acknowledgement of Faith: I believe that you are the Son of God, the only way to God, and that you died on the cross for my sins and rose again from the dead.

    Surrender and Repentance: I surrender all my rebellion and sin to you, submitting to you as my eternal Lord. I confess all my sins, humbly repenting and seeking your forgiveness, especially for any sins that may have exposed me to a curse.

    Release from Ancestral Sins: I ask for release from the consequences of the sins of my ancestors.

    Forgiveness: By a decision of my will, I forgive all who have harmed me or wronged me, just as I want God to forgive me. In particular, I forgive [ speak the names of those you need to forgive, as God brings them to mind ].

    Renunciation of the Occult: I renounce all contact with anything occult, satanic beings, or influences. If I have any cursed objects, I commit to destroying them as you help me to identify them. I cancel all of Satan's claims against me.

    Breaking Curses: I wholeheartedly renounce, in Jesus' name, any curses placed on my life, whether through my actions, my family's actions, my ancestors' actions, or any other source.

    Repentance for Ancestral Involvement: I repent for any of my ancestors who may have been involved in blood oaths, witchcraft, or traditional healing practices. I ask for their forgiveness and renounce any occult activities that may have caused me to have a blood pact with Satan.

    Reclaiming Spiritual Ground: I commit to serving and obeying you, Lord, and I take a stand against every evil force in my life. I renounce any darkness or evil force and refuse to submit to it. I reclaim this spiritual ground for God.

    Blessing Those Who Cursed: I bless any and all those that have cursed me.

    Claiming Christ's Sacrifice: Lord Jesus, I believe that on the cross you took upon yourself every curse that could ever come upon me. On the basis of your sacrifice, I believe that Satan's claims against me are cancelled.

    Total Submission and Release: I submit myself totally to you and ask you to release me from every curse over my life, in the name of Jesus Christ.

    "Christ redeemed us from the curse of the Law, having become a curse for us—for it is written: “Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree”—"
    基督既為我們受(「受」原文作「成」)了咒詛,就贖出我們脫離律法的咒詛,因為經上記著:「凡掛在木頭上都是被咒詛的。」 (Galatians 3:13)

    I ask that the blood of Jesus cleanse me and set me free. I break the influence of any curses over me right now. I recognize that I have the right to refuse them any place in my life. I command them to leave, in Jesus' name.

    In the almighty name of Jesus, the Son of God, I take authority over all evil forces, and I loose myself from them. By faith, I receive complete release from their power. I drive them from me now, in the name of Jesus. I invite the Holy Spirit to move in and make my deliverance fully effectual, as only you can do. Praise God.

    I thank you, gracious Lord, because "If the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed." [John 8:36] I know that you have made me free indeed. In Jesus' name, I pray.

    Amen.


    Additional Points from the Sources

    1. Steps for Breaking Curses: The sources outline a multi-step process for breaking curses, including:
    2. Recognition: Identifying the source of the curse.
    3. Appropriation: Claiming the atoning sacrifice of Jesus Christ.
    4. Establishing Spiritual Authority: Declaring authority over the curse using scripture.
    5. Repentance and Commitment: Expressing sincere remorse and a commitment to obedience.
    6. Renunciation and Rebuke: Denouncing the curse and rebuking Satan.
    7. Removing Cursed Objects: Disposing of any objects associated with the curse.
    8. Praying the Blood of Jesus: Invoking the protective power of Christ's blood.
    9. Blessing the One Who Cursed: Showing forgiveness and releasing bitterness.
    10. Release and Resist: Choosing obedience to God's commands.
    11. Anointed Oil: Using blessed anointing oil for healing (if available).
    12. Renewing Baptismal Vows: Reaffirming commitment to Christ. [2, 3]
    13. Generational Curses: The sources highlight that unrepentant sins of ancestors can lead to generational curses . Breaking these curses often requires:
    14. Identificational Repentance: Repenting on behalf of ancestors for their sins. [4, 5]
    15. Breaking Blood Oaths and Witchcraft Curses: Renouncing any ancestral involvement in occult practices. [6]
    16. Healing Through Deliverance: The sources suggest that deliverance ministry, guided by the Holy Spirit and trained individuals, can be crucial in breaking curses . This ministry often involves identifying spiritual strongholds, renouncing sin, and commanding evil spirits to leave.
    17. Healing Your Tongue: The sources emphasize the power of words . Self-imposed curses often stem from negative pronouncements against oneself.
    18. The sources recommend praying for healing of the tongue to break the power of negative words spoken and to guard against future harmful pronouncements. [7, 8]

    Remember, persistent prayer, faith in Christ's redemptive power, and seeking guidance from the Holy Spirit are essential for breaking free from curses and experiencing the fullness of God's blessings.


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    Published on 2024/10/27